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5 Pieces of Love Advice for Couples in a New Relationship

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Ridgewood NJ, In the current times where everyone is busy trying to progress in various areas of their lives, maintaining a good relationship isn’t easy. If anything, it requires dedication, patience, focus and a lot of work. It’s even more demanding if you’re just starting out as a new relationship requires a lot of time to develop. But that doesn’t mean yours won’t succeed. You simply have to intentionally make an effort to see it work. So if you’re sourcing out for advice concerning your fresh love, then you have come to the right place. Get comfortable and keep scrolling.

Relax and Take It Easy

It might seem impossible to keep calm amid all the emotions that you are feeling right now, but taking it easy is the best thing you can do. Yes, you might be scared of waking up one morning and realizing your partner doesn’t love you anymore, but will worrying stop time? Of course not. Instead, fear can turn you into a control freak, something that you don’t want to experience. It will even rob your peace and joy that you should be enjoying. Hence, learning to relax is the best way of getting to enjoy each other’s company.

Don’t Be Afraid To Take Off The Mask

Many people, find it hard to show their vulnerable side to someone else. While that’s absolutely normal, allowing someone else into your life means that you are ready to share your everything. And that includes both your strengths and weakness. Therefore, ensure that you start a relationship with someone you feel attracted to and are comfortable with, such that you can easily show your true colors.

Hence, it’s for this reason some people prefer consulting card readers about their love lives so that they be sure of how and when they will meet their soul mates. It’s all about being sure of your next step in life, so if that gives you confidence, then so be it. This article at phone reading from reveals the benefits of being in a two-way love relationship. Because being in one makes it very easy to act yourself, knowing very well that your partner will love you regardless.

Love Yourself

Both of you have to understand that you cannot give more than what you have. Therefore, contrary to common misconceptions, being in a relationship doesn’t mean that you forget all about yourself and focus on the other person. It actually means that you have to love and appreciate yourself much more so that you will have sufficient love to shower your loved one.

And by this, it doesn’t only mean your physical appearance. But rather an inward-outward kind of love. Take care of your soul and mind so that there is no baggage to pass on. Remember just like you, they’re also looking for someone to spend the rest of their lives with. Be intentionally that person.

Give Your 90%

Well, you might be asking, ” why 90% and not 100%?” The answer is pretty simple, you are allowed to be a little selfish at times. Once you have given out your 90%, have tried your best to understand the other person, putting most of their interests ahead of yours and being generous with your love, don’t be afraid to place yourself first at times. Be firm. Be bold. And always ensure that you are standing on the same page.

This might sound easy but putting it into practice isn’t at all. The secret behind this policy’s success is allowing yourself to feel that the other person is also giving 90%. After all, you aren’t dating yourself so it’s okay to be expectant.

Make Yourself Happy

It isn’t your partner’s responsibility to make you happy but rather yours. You see if you are already happy, then it’s easy for them to maintain or increase that happiness when they do things you like. But if you find yourself wanting your them to behave in a certain way so that you become happy, then that’s bondage and you both won’t like the end result. Yes, right now at the beginning of your relationship, they might seem happy all the time, but it will come a time when they have their moments and you don’t want to entirely place your happiness in their hands at that time.

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Kilwins in Ridgewood is offering an amazing promotion for Valentine’s Day

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Ridgewood NJ, Purchase $50 and receive a special gift our our Sea-Salt Caramel Assortment!! This is a $16.99 Value!!

Mention this offer to receive your special gift. Offer available at the Kilwins Ridgewood location only through February 14, 2019.

Happy Valentine’s Day!!

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Valentines day : The Top 10 Aphrodisiac Foods


Valentines day : The Top 10 Aphrodisiac Foods

Things to keep in mind when ordering food on the Valentines day.
The Top 10 Aphrodisiac Foods
You are what you eat, because what you eat directly influences your body and your body functions.
#10 Asparagus
An English herbalist from the 17th century, Nicholas Culpepper, wrote that asparagus “stirs up lust in man and woman.” Asparagus is a great source of potassium, fiber, vitamin B6, vitamins A and C, and thiamin and folic acid.
#9 Almonds
Through antiquity, almonds were regarded as fertility symbols. The aroma of almond supposedly arouses passion in females — or so thought the poets and scribes
#8 Avocados
Just by looking at the shape of avocado, you will see the reason why it was associated with sexuality
#7 Bananas
By it shape its connection with sexuality is quite obvious, but you’ll also find that bananas are loaded with potassium, magnesium and B vitamins. It also contains chelating minerals and the bromeliad enzyme
#6 Basil
Basil not only makes the meals smell and taste better, but it also has a lot of beneficial effects on human body. Basil has a fantastic aroma that is said to have an
aphrodisiac effect
#5 Chocolate
Pure chocolate, the king of natural aphrodisiacs, contains a host of compounds including anandamide, the psyochoactive feel-good chemical, and PEA (phenylethylamine), the “love chemical,” which releases dopamine in the pleasure centers of the brain
#4 Figs
This sexy fruit has long been thought of as an arousing stimulant, and an open fig is believed to emulate the female sex organs. Figs are steeped in history and are one of the oldest-recorded fruits.
#3 Garlic
Now, wait a minute! I know it’s stinky, but more importantly it’s strong, which is exactly what it will happen to guys. So, order up an extra-garlicky dish and
keep the Altoids handy.
#2 Oysters
Oysters are probably the food most associated with being an aphrodisiac, and most people are aware of their reputation for increasing sexual desire.
#1 Honey
Sweet, sticky honey is a great source of boron, a trace mineral that helps the body use and metabolize estrogen, the female sex hormone. Studies have shown that this mineral may also enhance testosterone levels in the blood.
The food you consume can have a direct impact on your sex life, affecting your hormones, brain chemistry and energy and stress levels. Some foods have psychoactive properties, and others arouse because they are psychologically suggestive. And if it does not have all that aphrodisiac effect, at least it’s healthy and it will do you good!

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The Dark Origins Of Valentine’s Day

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February 13, 20118:36 AM ET

Valentine’s Day is a time to celebrate romance and love and kissy-face fealty. But the origins of this festival of candy and cupids are actually dark, bloody — and a bit muddled.

A drawing depicts the death of St. Valentine — one of them, anyway. The Romans executed two men by that name on Feb. 14 of different years in the 3rd century A.D.

Though no one has pinpointed the exact origin of the holiday, one good place to start is ancient Rome, where men hit on women by, well, hitting them.

Those Wild And Crazy Romans

From Feb. 13 to 15, the Romans celebrated the feast of Lupercalia. The men sacrificed a goat and a dog, then whipped women with the hides of the animals they had just slain.

The Roman romantics “were drunk. They were naked,” says Noel Lenski, a historian at the University of Colorado at Boulder. Young women would actually line up for the men to hit them, Lenski says. They believed this would make them fertile.

The brutal fete included a matchmaking lottery, in which young men drew the names of women from a jar. The couple would then be, um, coupled up for the duration of the festival — or longer, if the match was right.

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Forget Chocolate! Red Juices Are A Healthier Valentine Alternative


Februrary 10,2017
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Ridgewood NJ, From Valentine’s Day to Heart Health Month, February is splashed with red.

Although chocolates may rule as a popular Valentine gift, those in the mood for a healthier treat can enjoy strawberries, cherries, raspberries, cranberries, watermelon, tomatoes and beets and reap the rewards.

These vibrant foods have a cornucopia of nutrients that love you back by healing your body and preventing disease, says best-selling author and nutritionist Cherie Calbom, known as “The Juice Lady,” whose latest book is The Juice Lady’s Guide to Fasting (

For example, numerous studies show that just one glass of beet juice lowers blood pressure in people with high blood pressure, she says. Other attributes of these red-themed fruits and vegetables include:

Tomato juice has lycopene, a phytonutrient that studies show reduces the risk for prostate cancer. Tufts and Boston University researchers discovered that the highest intake of lycopene was linked to nearly a 30 percent reduction in cardiovascular disease and coronary heart disease.
One study published in the Journal of Medicinal Foods found that tart cherry juice can improve sleep in older adults with insomnia.
Another study found that quercitin, a powerful antioxidant found in tart cherry juice, helped people fight heart disease by preventing oxidative damage to LDL cholesterol.
Strawberry juice is rich in vitamin C and folate—nutrients that help you fight cancer.
The American Journal of Clinical Nutrition reported that the intake of raspberries can lower the risk of death from cardiovascular disease due to their high content of anthocyanins, flavonoids that reduce inflammation. Inflammation is a leading cause of heart disease.
Watermelon has more lycopene than tomatoes—making it a delicious heart healthy fruit.

For those seeking to lose weight before Valentine’s Day, Calbom recommends a one-day red juice fast. “You can lose at least a pound a day and recharge your energy,” she says.

Heart Healthy Juice Recipes

Red Sunrise
Beets have been shown to lower blood pressure in a matter of hours. One study found that drinking one glass of beet juice lowered systolic blood pressure by an average of 4 to 5 points.

1 apple
1/2 small beet with tops
1 cucumber, peeled if not organic

Cut produce to fit your juicer’s feed tube. Juice ingredients, stir and enjoy. Serves 1.

Rosy Glow
All red, orange, and green vegetables and fruit are rich in carotenoids. Studies show that carotenoids give your skin an attractive rosy glow, even more appealing than being out in the sun.

4-5 medium carrots, tops removed
1 red apple
1 medium cucumber
1 small beet, with or without a few tops
2 ribs celery
1-inch chunk ginger root

Juice all ingredients, stir and enjoy! Serves 1-2

Icy, Spicy Gazpacho
Cilantro has been shown in studies to help the body detox heavy metals such as mercury, lead and aluminum.

2 tomatoes, cut in chunks
1 cup fresh carrot juice (about 5–7 carrots)
1 lemon, juiced, peeled, if putting it through a juice machine
1/4 cup cilantro, rinsed and chopped
1/4 teaspoon Celtic sea salt
1/4 teaspoon ground cumin
1/4 small jalapeño, chopped (more if you like it hot)
3 radishes

Place the tomato chunks in a freezer bag and freeze until solid. This is optional.  (Or you can use fresh tomatoes placed in the blender.)  Pour the carrot and lemon juices into a blender and add the frozen tomato chunks, cilantro, salt, cumin, jalapeño, and radishes. Blend on high speed until smooth, but slushy; serve immediately. Serves 2

About Cherie Calbom, MSN (aka The Juice Lady)

Cherie Calbom MSN holds a Master of Science degree in whole foods nutrition from Bastyr University. Known as “The Juice Lady” for her work with juicing and health, she is the author of 32 books including her latest The Juice Lady’s Guide to Fasting and Sugar Knockout. She and her husband offer juice cleanse retreats throughout the year, 30-Day Detox online and Garden’s Best Juice Powder. She has lectured worldwide on juicing, detoxing and fasting including consulting for the Royal Family of the UAE. Winner of the TTAC Lifetime Achievement Award for her work with juicing and detoxification, her blogs and books on juicing, cleansing and health have helped thousands of people live healthier lives. You can connect with her on Facebook and Twitter and sign up for her free newsletter at

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Valentines day : Best Flowers, Roses Are Last Year

February 10,2017
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Ridgewood NJ, It is clear to everyone that a red rose means love, and every year, an estimated 224 million roses are grown for Valentine’s Day alone, which makes up more than 50 percent of the flowers given each year.

While roses are always nice, Ebates just released a new infographic about The Best Flowers to Buy for Valentine’s Day infographic, and gives insight for those looking for a unique flower giving experience but don’t know the meaning, lifespan or prices of certain flowers.

Which flowers made the infographic?

Lilies: Passion & Fertility: $5-$10 per stem; Lifespan: 2-3 weeks
Gardenias: Secret Love: $8—$10 per stem; Lifespan: 1 week
Orchids: Deserving a Rich Escape: $10— $30 per stem; Lifespan: 1—2 weeks
Succulents: Self-cared for the busy worker: $5—$10 per stem; Lifespan: A few years
Carnations: Mother’s love: $5 per stem; Lifespan: 2—3 weeks
French Tulips: Fresh beginnings: $5—$10 per stem; Lifespan: Up to 10 Days
SunFlowers: Summer Love: $5 per stem; Lifespan: 5 to 12 Days
Purple Irises: Royalty: $5—$100 per stem
Tea Roses: Traditional Love: $10—$13per stem; Lifespan: 1 to 2 Weeks

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This Valentine’s Day Make Sure You Have The Right Soundtrack For Making Love


February 1,2017

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Ridgewood NJ, Better sex through music? Absolutely.  The right soundtrack can make or break the mood, enhance a sense of intimacy, and fine tune you to the rhythms of your lover.  Or if you’re currently solo, either by choice or by circumstance, sensual music can help draw you inward where you can experience ecstasy simply by swaying your hips to the beat.

The art of crafting a sexy playlist is as much about the order of songs as it is what songs to play.  Consider the arc of love making: a slow opening, an intensely erotic build up, multiple peaks, a deeply fulfilling orgasm followed by cuddling and ultimately rest.

The playlist created by one of the music experts at is a subtle, deeply sensual mix that moves through tenderness, sparse but swelling vocals, and multiple slow peaks of luscious, hypnotic rhythms. Created to cultivate presence in the body, it is intended to bring forward the pleasure that arises from waves of sonic body love. Perfect for when you want to surrender to your practice of literally making love blossom in your body……….or when it’s time to have making love BE your yoga practice 🙂

Why Does Music Help Create Connection?

Music is sometimes referred to as the Universal Language.  Often times in relationships people are trying to find ways to communicate deeper parts of themselves, be vulnerable and demonstrate authentic affection.  Music remind us that we are all connected because the very mechanics of sound work on the principle of sympathetic resonance, a principle that causes similar and connected objects to vibrate at the same frequency which translates to “I feel what you feel” in human terms.

To hear the playlist:

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St. Valentine beheaded

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On February 14 around the year 278 A.D., Valentine, a holy priest in Rome in the days of Emperor Claudius II, was executed.

Under the rule of Claudius the Cruel, Rome was involved in many unpopular and bloody campaigns. The emperor had to maintain a strong army, but was having a difficult time getting soldiers to join his military leagues. Claudius believed that Roman men were unwilling to join the army because of their strong attachment to their wives and families.

To get rid of the problem, Claudius banned all marriages and engagements in Rome. Valentine, realizing the injustice of the decree, defied Claudius and continued to perform marriages for young lovers in secret.

When Valentine’s actions were discovered, Claudius ordered that he be put to death. Valentine was arrested and dragged before the Prefect of Rome, who condemned him to be beaten to death with clubs and to have his head cut off. The sentence was carried out on February 14, on or about the year 270.

Legend also has it that while in jail, St. Valentine left a farewell note for the jailer’s daughter, who had become his friend, and signed it “From Your Valentine.”

For his great service, Valentine was named a saint after his death.

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State by state breakdown on how much Americans spend on Valentine’s Day gifts

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February 13,2016

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Ridgewood NJ, With Valentine’s Day quickly approaching, I wanted to gauge your interest in a story about American spending habits around the romantic holiday, the topic of a recent survey conducted by, a personal finance comparison and education site. The survey, which polled over 3,000 Americans, covered a ton of interesting data points, including how much people spend and the differences in spending based by state, length of relationship and gender. It also looked at secret spending, where a partner knowingly hides purchases from their significant other. If you’re interested, I’d be happy to share the findings, some of which include:

Respondents in Kansas spent the most on their partners on Valentine’s Day, with an average spend of $117, followed by Nevada ($112), Idaho ($111), North Dakota ($108), Hawaii ($102), Arkansas ($93), Virginia ($87), Florida ($83), California and South Carolina ($82).
The states that spent least on their Valentine were New Hampshire ($31) and South Dakota, Delaware, Maine, Vermont, Wyoming and Kentucky (all $36).
34% of Americans plan to celebrate Valentine’s Day by going to a restaurant
Those who are in 2 to 5 year relationship will get the highest valued gifts
Married couples were the most likely not to buy a gift at all
30% of Americans have hidden purchases from their loved ones

To check out the state by state breakdown of how much Americans spend, visit –