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Reader says Kids concerned that peers and teachers will look at her differently if they stay in classroom


My kid is in HS and doesn’t feel like she wants to go for the walkout. However she asked me what she should do as she is concerned that peers and teachers will look at her differently if she stays in classroom. See what happens? What am I supposed to tell her? I want her to follow her heart but I am also concerned that she may be subject to repercussions. This walkout shouldn’t happen during school hours. Either after hours or weekends. This way kids would be free to act as they wish without concerns of being watched. This administration is ruining the kids with political siding.

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Ridgewood’s “Tolerance” Police set the Record Straight

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You’re using that word wrong.

“Tolerance” as a social virtue is a relatively recent concept and specifically refers to the quality that is the opposite of bigotry.

“Tolerance” is not the same as niceness or politeness, though it can accompany those traits.

People who stand for tolerance stand against bigotry. And people who stand against bigotry may absolutely be angry, and even rude. They may have no time or patience for bigotry. They are still standing against bigotry. The concept of tolerance does not include “tolerating” bigotry.

Please remember this before you again pull out the tired trope of “you’re not putting up with my bigotry, therefore you’re intolerant.”

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Millennials : Fragile Snowflakes or Manipulative Narcissists?


It’s worth pondering the role of helicopter-parenting.
Devin Foley | November 10, 2015

At the same time some students are flexing their political muscles (with the help of some professors) at the University of Missouri, Yale, and other schools demanding “safe space”, we’re treated to an increasing number of stories about the lack of resilience and overall fragility of many college students.

Quite honestly, the psychology of it all is fascinating, but deeply worrisome when you consider we’re all in this as a society. So, what’s going on?

Peter Gray, Ph.D., a research professor at Boston College, recently wrote for Psychology Today about the issue.

“A year ago I received an invitation from the head of Counseling Services at a major university to join faculty and administrators for discussions about how to deal with the decline in resilience among students. At the first meeting, we learned that emergency calls to Counseling had more than doubled over the past five years. Students are increasingly seeking help for, and apparently having emotional crises over, problems of everyday life.

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N.J. judge says parents can’t be made to pay for kids’ bullying


AUGUST 5, 2015, 11:26 AM    LAST UPDATED: WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 5, 2015, 12:00 PM

SOMERVILLE — A New Jersey judge has ruled that the parents of alleged bullies cannot be held financially liable for their children’s actions.

The ruling came Monday in a lawsuit against the Flemington-Raritan and Central Regional School Districts by the family of a boy who claims to have been bullied by others, saying the schools did not do enough to stop it despite years of complaints.

The school districts attempted to have the parents of 13 alleged bullies held responsible for negligence, arguing that parents share responsibility for their children’s actions even when they’re at school.

Their children are accused of making fun of the boy’s weight, using anti-gay slurs, throwing pasta at him and pulling down his pants. The lawsuit from the alleged victim, now a teenager, did not seek to hold individual classmates responsible.