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How does addressing a known and long term meanness and bullying problem in elementary school, by threatening suspensions and community service, actually help the problem??

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May 24,2018

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Ridgewood NJ, this email was sent to the BOE and various Ridgewood school officials on the bullying problem in Ridgewood elementary schools.

To the administration in Ridgewood public schools:

Let me ask this district a question.
How does addressing a known and long term meanness and bullying problem in elementary school, by threatening suspensions and community service, actually help the problem??
The underlying long term problem of meanness and nastiness within your school? I’m saying you’ve known. I’m saying you’ve added to it. I’m saying you’ve done NOT ENOUGH to stop it. For years.
You did finally actually address the problem. But you did it in the manner of putting out the fire once started, Rather than actually address the problem at the root.
Threatening community service and suspension from school to students who are 9 years old does nothing except to add drama and angst to a situation you ignored long enough to become this big of an issue.
And yes. I posted about this on Facebook. I intend to make this VERY public. Very. I intend to take the (many) Mother’s on board with me who want to see change and not simply threats, and we will publicly hold all Ridgewood School accountable for the children they’re responsible for. Mothers who for a variety of reasons don’t want to rock the boat about how badly our kids feel and are treated in your care.
There are many. You have a wide spread problem. We want to see these kids CHOOSE KIND and we want you to help.
It’s remarkable how many mothers you can mobilize in 24 hours and if There’s a lull please be advised we are working on it. It won’t last.
Please know. YES. There will be no hiding from what goes on anymore. We expect to see how you implement CHOOSE KIND and we expect to see it swiftly.
This district will no longer happily raise our taxes and in conjunction provide less for our students. Particularly students who have an IEP and should be protected from the bullying, assaulting behaviors which brought this about.
Your method of threatening students with detention suspension doesn’t work. It’s putting out fires. What you need to do is become proactive and stop it at the source. Be a leader. Make your school one which chooses to be kind, choose kind, show kindness. Not one which threatens bad behavior in to secrecy and blame.
I say enough and I’m bringing a Mom army with me.
CHOOSE KIND should be a dominant statement within Ridgewood schools and homes starting NOW. What are you going to do to help that.