Posted on

Civil Discourse | The Modern Approach of Conflict Resolution

Woman-yelling-in-megaphone

It’s not rare for an otherwise mild conversation to end in conflict. This is very common, especially with the increasing rate of how we meet new and diverse people. Conversations can easily turn to heated arguments and, from there, conflict, especially if the topic of discussion is very sensitive or affects someone’s beliefs or values. But this should not be.

Continue reading Civil Discourse | The Modern Approach of Conflict Resolution

Posted on

Clementi family discusses Day 1 campaign at Ridgewood forum

clementi_01_480x360

AUGUST 17, 2015    LAST UPDATED: MONDAY, AUGUST 17, 2015, 9:49 AM
BY MARK KRULISH
STAFF WRITER |
THE RIDGEWOOD NEWS

Civility talks continued in the village last Monday with a special presentation from two Ridgewood residents who have become advocates for social change regarding bullying and cyber-bullying, particularly those affected in the nation’s LGBT community.

Joe and Jane Clementi, the founders of the Tyler Clementi Foundation, named for their son, whose September 2010 suicide became a national news story, were on hand at the Senior Center in Ridgewood to discuss the foundation’s latest project entitled “Day 1.”

Day 1 is a recently-launched, national anti-bullying campaign that empowers those in leadership positions.

“The idea of it is we instruct people in authority, whether it be teachers, managers, leaders in sports groups, on how to conduct a preemptive explanation about bullying and how to not engage in it and what kind of behavior is tolerated in a group and what kind of behavior won’t be tolerated,” explained Joe Clementi.

Clementi said he believes the campaign will work and it is designed to be simple, effective and cost-free to allow easy implementation in workplaces, schools, sports programs or any group-oriented activity

 

https://www.northjersey.com/community-news/leaders-can-have-positive-influence-on-day-1-1.1393685

Posted on

An arbitrary view of civility in Ridgewood

civility_the_ridgewoodblog

JUNE 12, 2015    LAST UPDATED: FRIDAY, JUNE 12, 2015, 12:31 AM
THE RIDGEWOOD NEWS

to the Editor:

The mayor continues to hold civility meetings, the purpose of which is unclear. Now it appears a subject of concern is sports conduct on and off the field.

Is this an appropriate topic for the council to be involved in?

I’ve been in town for 39 years and have attended numerous sporting events. On rare occasions there have been a few angry parents and a coach or two who has been asked to leave the field. Is anyone surprised? Nothing except maybe religion and politics gets people more excited than their kids and sports.

It happens at all levels and everywhere. We are not unique. Problems should be addressed when and where they happen. That being within the sports community.

At the last council meeting, the village manager accused a sitting council member of incivility for asking questions regarding the budget and a recent job hiring. It appears that this word is being used to inhibit the political process.

If asking questions, showing displeasure and disagreeing with the powers that be is considered uncivil, then we all need a civics lesson.

Webster’s 1913 definition of civility is: The state of society in which the relations and duties of the citizen are recognized and obeyed. Based on this definition, civility begins at the top and it is the common man who should be treated in a civil manner.

It is not easy to speak out and those that do should not be intimidated by some arbitrary view of what it means to be civil.

Linda McNamara

Ridgewood

https://www.northjersey.com/opinion/opinion-letters-to-the-editor/letter-to-the-editor-an-arbitrary-view-of-civility-in-ridgewood-1.1354505

Posted on

Report card: No significant academic gains in U.S. History, Civics since 2010

Civics_0

May 16, 2015

CATO INSTITUTE

The Cato Institute is a public policy research organization — a think tank – dedicated to the principles of individual liberty, limited government, free markets and peace. Its scholars and analysts conduct independent, nonpartisan research on a wide range of policy issues. Archive»

WASHINGTON, D.C. – The latest results of the Nation’s Report Card for history, geography, and civics are out, and as usual they are depressing.

The exam, formally known as the National Assessment of Educational Progress, is administered to a representative sample of U.S. students to give a snapshot of student performance in a variety of subjects nationwide. Education Week reports:

The nation’s eighth graders have made no academic progress in U.S. history, geography or civics since 2010, according to the latest test results from the National Assessment of Educational Progress (NAEP).

Fewer than one-third of students scored proficient or better on any of the tests and only 3 percent or fewer scored at the advanced level in any of the three subjects.

However, Chad Aldeman of Bellwether Education Partners argues that saying students “have made no academic progress” is “the wrong way to look at it” because of something called Simpson’s Paradox (which has nothing to do with the voice of Principal Skinner and Mr. Burns turning down a $14 million contract):

Because NAEP takes a representative sample, it’s also vulnerable to something called Simpson’s Paradox, a mathematical paradox in which the composition of a group can create a misleading overall trend. As the United States population has become more diverse, a representative sample picks up more and more minority students, who tend to score lower overall than white students. That tends to make our overall scores appear flat, even as all of the groups that make up the overall score improve markedly.

Recent NAEP results in history, geography, and civics illustrate this trend once again. Education Week reported that scores were “flat” from 2010 to 2014. That’s mostly true—the scores were all higher than in 2010 but didn’t meet the standard for statistical significance. But scores are up over longer periods of time. Here are the gains since 2001 on geography (* signifies statistically significant):

• All students: +1
• White students: +4*
• Black students: +7*
• Hispanic students: +9*
• Students with disabilities: +8*
• English Language Learners: +7

… A few things jump out from these longer-term results. First, overall scores are up a little bit, but particular groups of students are making big gains. One rule of thumb suggests that 10–15 points on the NAEP translates into one grade level. Applying that here, scores for most groups of students have improved by roughly a full grade level over the last 15 years or so. Second, achievement gaps are closing as lower-performing groups are catching up to higher-performing ones. Third, Simpson’s Paradox makes the overall scores look relatively “flat.” Don’t let that mislead you. Although we might wish for faster progress, American achievement scores are rising.

However, other education policy experts have cast a gimlet eye on this interpretation. Jay P. Greene of the University of Arkansas argues, “It is not appropriate to explain away the lack of aggregate progress in academic achievement by referencing Simpson’s Paradox and dis-aggregating results by racial/ethnic group.” In a blog post on the mis-use of Simpson’s Paradox a few years ago, Greene wrote:

The unstated argument behind the use of Simpson’s Paradox to explain the lack of educational progress [is that] minority students are more difficult to educate and we have more of them, so holding steady is really a gain.

The problem with this is that it only considers one dimension by which students may be more or less difficult to educate —race. And it assumes that race has the same educational implications over time. Unless one believes that minority students are more challenging because they are genetically different [which, Greene notes, he does not think Aldeman believes], we have to think about race/ethnicity differently over time as the host of social and economic factors that race represents changes. Being African-American in 1975 is very different from being African-American in 2008. (Was a black president even imaginable back then?) So, the challenges associated with educating minority students three decades ago were almost certainly different from the challenges today.

If we want to see whether students are more difficult to educate over time, we’d have to consider more than just how many minority students we have. We’d have to consider a large set of social and economic variables, many of which are associated with race. Greg Forster and I did this in a report for the Manhattan Institute in which we tracked changes in 16 variables that are generally held to be related to the challenges that students bring to school. We found that 10 of those 16 factors have improved, so that we would expect students generally to be less difficult to educate.

In addition, my Cato colleague Andrew Coulson—creator of the infamous chart below—expressed skepticism about using the main NAEP assessment (which changes between test administrations) to analyze long-term trends. Instead, he points to the NAEP’s “Long-Term Trend” series that was designed just for that purpose. Unlike the main NAEP assessment, the Long-Term Trend remains relatively unchanged over time. Sadly, the results are bleak:

It is true that both black and Hispanic students now score higher than they did in the early 1970s, and the difference isn’t negligible as it is with the overall aggregate trend. … The trends for white students, who still make up the majority of test takers, are only marginally better than the overall trends. Whites gained four points in each of reading and math, and lost six points in science. The overall picture for whites is thus also essentially a flat line, and it is their performance that is chiefly responsible for the stagnation in the overall average scores, not the increasing participation of historically lower-scoring groups.

In short, there is little evidence that Simpson’s Paradox explains flat U.S. student performance in the last few decades.

 

https://eagnews.org/report-card-no-significant-academic-gains-in-u-s-history-civics-since-2010/

Posted on

Verbal attack on Ridgewood mayor must stop

Paul_Aronsohn_dunking_theridgewoodblog

MAY 1, 2015    LAST UPDATED: FRIDAY, MAY 1, 2015, 12:31 AM

THE RIDGEWOOD NEWS

Backbiting must come to an end

To the Editor:

I do not subscribe to the Manichean political vision of good guy/bad guy, white hat/black hat that many Ridgewood residents seem to espouse. We are all a shade of gray, part saint, part sinner.

With this in mind I am getting fed up with the slings and arrows that Mayor Paul Aronsohn has been subjected to. Our mayor may not be perfect, as I have indicated in many of my letters to The Ridgewood News, but he is one of the best and most effective mayors Ridgewood has ever had. Let us support him as he does his best for Ridgewood.

The backbiting has got to stop. I wish all those who talk the talk can expend some of their energies to walk the walk. Ridgewood will be a much better place for it.

Rurik Halaby

Ridgewood

https://www.northjersey.com/opinion/opinion-letters-to-the-editor/letter-to-the-editor-verbal-attack-on-ridgewood-mayor-must-stop-1.1323117

 

MAYOR’S OFFICE HOURS FOR RESIDENTS -Saturday, May 2

Mayor Paul Aronsohn holds office hours for Ridgewood residents the first Saturday of every month. Mayor Aronsohn will meet with residents on Saturday, May 2 from 9AM to Noon in the Council Chambers (Sydney V. Stoldt, Jr. Court Room) on the fourth floor of Ridgewood Village Hall.

For an appointment to meet with the Mayor, please call the Village Clerk’s Office at 201-670-5500 ext. 206. You may come to the Mayor’s office hours without an appointment, but those with appointments will be given priority

Posted on

Council should focus on good governance

DSCF3180-300x225

file photo by Boyd Loving

To the Editor:

I read Darius Amos’ report of the Village Council April 8 meeting (“Hiring eligibility expands,” April 10, page A1) and, although I always like Darius’ reporting, I believe he missed out on the most important part of the presentation by the labor attorney for the village.

Someone, I don’t know who but I can guess, invited Ridgewood’s labor attorney, Beth Hinsdale, to speak before the scheduled public portion of the meeting. Everyone in the room had to sit quietly and listen for over 45 minutes as she skewered Councilwoman Susan Knudsen. From her first erroneous statement to the end, it was an attack on the person of a council member who dared to ask a question, or question an answer.

Ms. Hinsdale also impugned an employee of Civil Service, calling her incompetent. Nobody stopped this presentation when it became personal, not our mayor, not our attorney, not our manager, nobody. This confrontation did not belong at a public meeting; if Ms. Hinsdale had a problem with something a council person said, it should be resolved either by a brief statement of facts or a letter read by the mayor.

Ms. Hinsdale even inferred illegalities on the part of Ms. Knudsen because of her sons, which in the end was the final straw for me.

Incredibly, with composure, Ms. Knudsen refuted some of the charges, especially the charge that the Civil Service employee who gave an official answer was incompetent, and even having the composure to apologize for any misunderstanding.

But this was not enough as the accusations continued until Ms. Hinsdale finally stopped talking.

I urge all residents to see the video of the meeting for themselves and decide if this is the kind of government we want to support, or do we want to reform. I said at the meeting we should forget about civility and focus on good governance, which is being totally ignored these days.

Ellie Gruber

Ridgewood

https://www.northjersey.com/opinion/opinion-letters-to-the-editor/letter-to-the-editor-ridgewood-council-meeting-lacked-civility-1.1311630

Posted on

Civility Forum – May 11th at 7:30PM

dueling-swords

Rev. Jan Phillips will lead the discussion. Everyone is welcome to attend.

Ridgewood NJ, at the last meeting  there was a consensus to continue the series of forums that are exploring civility. Additionally, we agreed to further discuss rules, regulations and guidelines for community sports.

Several participants have asked to discuss the recent Mahwah Council Meeting. The forum will discuss the impact of anger, frustration and behavior.

We have access to the Senior Center located within the Ridgewood Municipal Building,Monday May 11, 2015, 7:30 P.M. – 9:00 P.M.

Posted on

Ridgewood continues civility roundtable talks

unnamed

unnamed

file photo

Ridgewood continues civility roundtable talks

March 16, 2015    Last updated: Monday, March 16, 2015, 10:49 AM
By Mark Krulish
Staff Writer |
The Ridgewood News

Another round of discussions on the concept of civility took place last week, this time in the more informal and intimate setting of the first floor senior lounge at Village Hall.

The discussion, which was led by the Rev. Jan Phillips, began with the reiteration of the purpose for holding these meetings, which was not to dictate comment or limit speech, but rather to eliminate hate speech and promote understanding between people.

“I had done a program with Pastor [Gregory] Lisby of Christ Church,” Philips said. “We were talking about backlash that has been happening because of these committee meetings and he said there’s this notion that telling people how to behave civilly is such a classist thing. That’s not where we’re coming from.”

The group explored how communication and behavior can shape a person’s perspective and examples of incivility during public meetings, while also branching off into various topics that affect the community.

Hans Jurgen Lehmann, a member of the Ridgewood Zoning Board of Adjustment, noted there have been times when audience members at meetings express skepticism that professionals testifying on behalf of applicants are being truthful with the information they give to the board.

“When they listen to the experts from the applicant, they don’t trust any of those people,” Lehmann said. “They just think they’re out there to scam them, but they are very factual.

“I’m constantly puzzled, in this society that’s supposedly very democratic, why we’re so suspicious about government. I just don’t get it,” he added.

https://www.northjersey.com/news/civility-discussion-continues-in-ridgewood-1.1289918

Posted on

‘Civility’ is another vague concept

federalist

federalist

‘Civility’ is another vague concept

March 6, 2015    Last updated: Friday, March 6, 2015, 12:31 AM
The Ridgewood News

The limits of civility

To the Editor:

Work obligations prevented me from attending the panel on civility, so I offer my observations here.

“Civility” is like “decency,” or “freedom,” or any number of other vague concepts against which no one could sensibly argue. My college professors called such terms “glittering generalities” and warned us to beware of hiding behind them.

“Civility” can enable the sophist to evade challenge by deflecting the emphasis from what is said to how it is said. “What a rude, mean, tactless thing to say” is not a refutation of an underlying argument, only a deflection. Sometimes harsh criticism is deserved and hard words are unavoidable.

I was particularly uncomfortable with the correspondent in last week’s paper who deplored questioning motives. Motives that cannot stand up to questioning are likely to be questionable. For example, “nonprofit” is simply a form of corporate organization in which any excess is ploughed back into the corporation rather than disbursed as dividends to shareholders; there is nothing especially virtuous about it, and though the corporation is nonprofit, individuals who derive their income from it generally are not. Many a scoundrel has cloaked himself in the robes of righteousness, and over the past few years the chorus of voices demanding more accountability for “nonprofits” has grown in both number and volume..

With regard to anonymity, the Federalist Papers were written under pseudonyms; it is understandable that critics of wealthy and powerful institutions might well want not to risk retaliation.

In sum, critics are well advised to avoid ad hominem arguments, intemperate words, and insults because they undermine your logic and alienate possible allies. But otherwise, as Harry Truman said, if you can’t stand the heat, get out of the kitchen.

A.C.Willment

Ridgewood

https://www.northjersey.com/opinion/opinion-letters-to-the-editor/letter-to-the-editor-civility-is-another-vague-concept-1.1283635

Posted on

Civility Roundtable Meeting – Monday, March 9th

torchMob

torchMob

coming after you

Civility Roundtable Meeting – Monday, March 9th

Following up on the February 24th Civility Roundtable, residents are invited to attend the next meeting on March 9th . We will explore how communication and behavior shape our perspectives. The meeting will be held at 7:30pm in the Senior Lounge at Village Hall.

Rev. Jan Phillips will lead the discussion. Everyone is welcome to attend.

show?id=mjvuF8ceKoQ&bids=355335
Warm Up Winter with a Smile! Save up to 40% on Flowers & Gifts at 1800flowers.com.show?id=mjvuF8ceKoQ&bids=216823
Coffee.clubshow?id=mjvuF8ceKoQ&bids=363195
Microsoft Store
Hotwire US

Posted on

Reader says it would only take one well-conceived lawsuit brought under the Sunshine Law to effectively neutralize the “normative” power of their innocuous-sounding series of roundtable discussions

Hair Broadway

Hair Broadway

Reader says it would only take one well-conceived lawsuit brought under the Sunshine Law to effectively neutralize the “normative” power of their innocuous-sounding series of roundtable discussions

The Sunshine Law was put in place for the benefit of the public to foster transparency and thereby stem corruption (sunshine being the ‘best disinfectant’). In accordance with that important purpose, the Sunshine Law is interpreted liberally (i.e., broadly) to effectively foil the plans of politically-aligned colleagues who separately populate a common public board or municipal council to influence or, worse yet, pre-determine the course of public business outside regular, well-publicized and predictable channels.

One well-conceived lawsuit brought under the Sunshine Law would be all it would take to put the fear of G*d into these shysters and effectively neutralize the “normative” power of their innocuous-sounding series of roundtable discussions.

show?id=mjvuF8ceKoQ&bids=355335
Microsoft Store
Hotwire US
Coffee.clubshow?id=mjvuF8ceKoQ&bids=363195

Posted on

Reader says residents will have to practically beg forgiveness for failing to appreciate the supernatural degree of wisdom of our elected officials

the-wizard-of-oz-6-cems360

the-wizard-of-oz-6-cems360

Reader says residents will have to practically beg forgiveness for failing to appreciate the supernatural degree of wisdom of our elected officials 

These ‘civility roundtables’ are exclusively taking place in the confines of the Village of Ridgewood. Discussions occurring during these ‘civility roundtables’ are clearly directed to the proper manner in which Ridgewood residents who have yet to be intimidated into silence will be allowed to express themselves or otherwise comport themselves at a public microphone during a public meeting when dissenting from the next fruitcake scheme the three amigos cook up. Once the ‘civility roundtable’ meetings have managed to aggressively purge themselves of all political dissenters, or bored them so thoroughly that their political opponents stop attending the meetings to preserve their personal sanity, the meetings will move on to discuss more substantive public issues.

All of this constitutes public business and can be legitimately called out as such, Bernie-esque, so long as three or more members of the Ridgewood Village Council are present and are actively engaged in the meeting.

Just wait until the future public meeting of the VC when a disgruntled Ridgewood resident makes the mistake of violating one or another ‘unofficial’ rule of decorum solemnly laid down by one of these self-appointed local roundtables populated by politically progressive tut-tutting busibodies. Mark my words, that resident will be treated to a harsh and demeaning earful from one of the three amigos disgusted and frustrated at having to deal with yet another untutored rube, unhip to the “new normal”, in accordance with which we are to verbally kiss the tucchus of our elected officials and practically beg forgiveness for failing to appreciate their supernatural degree of wisdom before daring to explain how or why we disagree with them.

show?id=mjvuF8ceKoQ&bids=355335
Microsoft Store
Hotwire US
Coffee.clubshow?id=mjvuF8ceKoQ&bids=363195

Posted on

Reader says Knudsen and Sedon would do us all the favor by attending the “Civility Roundtable” in official capacities, thereby triggering the Sunshine Law

Hair Broadway

Hair Broadway

Reader says Knudsen and Sedon would do us all the favor by attending the “Civility Roundtable” in official capacities, thereby triggering the Sunshine Law

At some point these quasi-public meetings move from discussing procedure (i.e., the process by which irreconcilable dissenters are isolated, frozen, and embarrassed, preferably one at a time), to discussing substance (once the meetings have been purged of non-likeminded people, the real agenda can be discussed and moved forward), all without the need to publish an agenda before the meeting or the minutes afterward, UNLESS…both M’s Knudsen and Sedon would do us all the favor of breaking up the party by attending all of these meetings in their official capacities, thereby triggering the Sunshine Law…?

Coffee.clubshow?id=mjvuF8ceKoQ&bids=363195

Hotwire US

Microsoft Store

Posted on

Village of Ridgewood tackles decline in civility

zorro-2

zorro-2

Village of Ridgewood  tackles decline in civility

Upcoming meeting will explore ways to raise the tone of public discourse

Why can’t we all just get along?

The rabbis have been asking that question for years, particularly in late summer, around the time of Tisha B’Av, when sermons inevitably wrap around the themes of baseless hatred and intolerance.

But our secular community — especially as political discourse turns ever more hostile and bullying pervades both our schools and our social media — has been asking that as well, and at least one town has decided to do something about it.

According to Ridgewood’s Mayor Paul Aronsohn, the town began its civility initiative last year. With a core group including Rabbi David Fine of the town’s Temple Israel and Jewish Community Center, Councilwoman Gwenn Hauck, the Rev. Jan Phillips of the Religious Society of Friends, and Mr. Aronsohn, the town already has held two roundtable discussions on the issue, seeking to identify the problem and locate the line between disagreement and incivility.

“It’s not only what you say, but how you say it,” Mr. Aronsohn said, noting that any discussion must include both content and attitude. “It’s good and fine to disagree, but we should be able to disagree without being disagreeable.”

https://jstandard.com/content/item/town_tackles_decline_in_civility/32564